I had a bit of a Eureka! moment yesterday as I was walking home. The strangest thing is, I haven´t walked home since high school! But I was on the phone and got carried away with the feet and with the mouth, I do that sometimes, talk and talk and talk and listen for a moment or two. I have also mastered the art of multitasking to a great degree. Talking, listening and plotting in my head. I believe myself to be a bit of a late responser so basically what happens is things I read and hear tend to sink in a little later than what is considered normal. I figure this is why I was such an average student in both high school and most of my college years, I was there gathering information and data and yet I wasn´t there. Later on I would find myself walking around campus drinking coffee and thinking (random thoughts were the most popular) and something would trigger my -oh! I get it- instance. Yes, I may be a slow reactor but many brilliant minds have been as well... Anyway, all this reading and hypnotherapy sessions on self respect and Brene Browns´ findings on vulnerability set off a whole new theory, and this little mess created on paintbrush demonstrates it:
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Its a vicious circle, well a circle without the vicious, its actually a really positive take on all this stuff. You know what they say about the chicken and the egg and the order of appearance... This has to do with how self -respect and vulnerability work hand in hand. See, I too have always had a problem with being vulnerable (btw, check Brene´s Ted, she´s absolutely brilliant: Brene talks Vulnerability), being a strong independent woman, you know the type. But it wasn't until quite later in life that I understood the importance of it and yet I was terrified. Why would I purposely put myself in a position of getting hurt?
Well, if you work on developing the best relationship you can possibly have with yourself, it means that your self-respect is getting stronger. If your self-respect is in balance then you'll be less tolerant to people and things crossing your boundaries and putting you in a negative state. Therefore you'll have an easier approach to opening up and becoming more vulnerable because you start losing that fear of getting hurt. You cant completely avoid being hurt when you are letting yourself just be, but on the other hand, life can be so much more fulfilling. Now you're actually living and not just passing by... So go ahead, put yourself out there and tell me how it goes!
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