Sometimes we stop caring, but that´s ok. Sometimes others stop caring, it´s painful but that´s ok too. We´re not meant to fulfill the wants and need of everyone around us. And others shouldn´t have to fulfill yours. I mean it´s affection and love better received when were not expecting it or obliged to give anything in return? However not expecting anything in return does not equal non existing reciprocity. What I mean by this is you should know who you're sharing your feelings with and not just professing your love in vain. This is what constitutes an adult relationship as opposed to writing I love Pablo enclosed by a heart on the classroom desk... mind you Pablo didn't even go to that school!. Mutual respect, understanding, appreciation and care. Would you continue pursuing a friendship with someone who consistently demonstrates lack of interest in you and your relationship? I sincerely wish you answered "no" in this one... So why do it with a romantic interest, shouldn´t that person apply the basics of friendship to your partnership? Well...
Ive been exposed to this very recently. I was very sad for sometime because I read into his unresponsive script as rejection towards me. I couldn´t have been more wrong! It all began with my friend Angels´ words of wisdom... In reality the words came from Miss Ivannah, the tripple nipple psychic from Mallrats (I told you, never dismiss Pop Culture!). These words are "Understanding is reached only after confrontation". It kind of speaks for itself but if we want to get into more detail, don´t be lead (or mislead) by assumptions. Sometimes (most times) things aren´t what they seem! So I went ahead and confronted. And it felt freaking great, you know why? Because I got it over with, a close relative of closure. Instead of projecting things on me, as far as my worth and my feelings of fault I shifted everything towards him and understood that it had nothing to with me, not even close...
It all comes down to being compatible or not and not trying to change what you have in front of you, believe me Im super guilty of this, Im a storyteller!! Get it through your head that people behave the way they do because of their upbringing, learned pattern and personality. If someone does not care for you or about you, there´s not much you can do about it except face a new direction and go find someone that does... Or just accept the circumstances and enjoy the moment. You always have a choice in life, it depends on what you can cope with or are willing to cope with...
Whatever the circumstances are, if you want a happy ending to all endeavors in your life, learn to confront... when you feel the time is right. Demand your need for comprehension whatever the outcome may be, there´s no higher torture than not knowing, is there?... That you can deal with! And if you find it difficult you can always go to the mall and get advice from Miss Ivannah...
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